My weirdest online rejection so far
January 3rd, 2015 Posted 10:11 pm
Believe me, it’s been a cutthroat world on the dating scene since I moved to Montreal.
My horrible excuse for a love life in Toronto was heartbreaking enough, but Montreal takes it to a whole new level despite only having been here a little less than three weeks.
Let’s face it: I’m bored, I have no friends and I’m pretty goddamn lonely so I’ve naturally ramped up my online dating presence in an effort to meet some new people. I’m not to expecting to meet the girl of my dreams. I’m not expecting any kind of fairytale romance; I’m not expecting to get laid; I’m not expecting to be doted upon by Canada’s Next Top Model for heavens sake – all I want right now is to meet new people, you know? Expand my social circle. Make acquaintances. Find someone to go out for coffee with on cold winter days. Is that too much to ask for?
I guess you can sense my frustrations, and I’m not gonna go into the details of all the Montreal online encounters I’ve had so far (which, for the record, has involved 50+ sent messages across various platforms, resulting in two meetups that may well feature in my next instalment of Awkward Dates). I do, however, want to mention one exchange that really got to me about half an hour ago as I checked my messages. I’d been PM’ing a local girl on Reddit for the past week, who had posted a thread titled ‘Date me!” Our conversation had been happy, fun, a little flirty – just the right balance of getting to know one another without giving too much away.
I asked her out for a coffee this weekend!
I suggested we go to Cafe des Chats, a cat cafe not far from home, because hey, cats are fun (in small doses) and girls like cats.
“Coffee (or tea for you!) sounds lovely.” she said. (See? She even knew I was a tea fanatic!) “Never been to Cafe des Chats, but I’ve been meaning to! 🙂 Does 2 or 3pm work for you? You think we can exchange pics beforehand? Don’t really have the nerves for completely blind dates.”
“Of course,” I replied, “here is a pic of me. I’m a pretty big fan of Great Big Sea and I got to meet Alan Doyle recently while he was promoting his autobiography, I was stoked to get a photo with him. Feel free to send a pic back! So if I pass the photo test, how about 2pm tomorrow at the cafe? :)”
I wanted to meet this girl. It’s rare to establish an enjoyable email exchange like the one we had going. I was definitely curious.
I thought quite carefully about which picture to send her. I have a lot to choose from, but I specifically settled upon this one because it shows my interests, it’s a face + body shot, I feel like it’s a decently attractive pose, it includes the very awesome Alan Doyle from Great Big Sea, and altogether I think it sums me up pretty well.
Four hours later, this is what I got in response:
Aw, nice photo. You certainly pass…but I have to be brutally honest, you remind me a lot of my ex it’s eerie. Beyond sharing the same name, you look A LOT like him. I’m so sorry, I know this is an incredible shallow reason not to want to get to know someone, but it’s bothering me that I’m even thinking about him in any capacity right now. It was a real pleasure speaking with you these last couple of days and I’m sorry I’m being weird. I wish you well.
Ummmmmm… ARE YOU SERIOUS? Am I really that unattractive? Or is this actually a thing?
If anyone can explain what the fuck this rejection is supposed to mean, I’d sure appreciate it.
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